THANKING ALL READERS FOR THEIR SUPPORT, COMMENTS AND FEEDBACK
Assalamu ‘alaikum warahamtullahi wabarakatuh
Alhamdulillah. My thanks to the Almighty for His continuous help and guidance that I am able to resume writing and continue with my postings on lelakitakpuas.com after a period of
absence which is inevitable due to my heavy and hectic schedule in discharging my duties.
I am glad to be told that lelakitakpuas.com has been able to alleviate some of the problems faced by fellow lawyers practising in the Syariah Court of Singapore. Lawyers told me that they referred their clients to lelakitakpuas.com when they were unable to convince their clients why they were heavily ‘penalised’ by the Syariah Court even though they had adduced evidence that their wives were unfaithful, disobedient or philandering and/or adulterous.
At first I thought lelakitakpuas.com would only attract some comments from some readers. The fact that fellow lawyers are referring their clients to lelakitakpuas.com show that there are some instances when some lawyers were unable to give satisfactory and convincing reasons to their clients when they were asked by their aggrieved clients for reasons why they had to pay large amount of mut’ah and a large portion of the harta sapencarian to their wives who were not behaving themselves and failed to discharge their duties as obedient wives.
Some of the male readers may form the impression that it is not necessary for them to engage lawyers to represent them in their divorce cases in Syariah Court because the outcome of their cases could be predicted, i.e pay and pay. If you had formed such an impression you are doing an injustice to yourself. Look out for my next posting “The Syariah Court of Singapore offers an entertaining lottery game.”
I am very much obliged that lelakitakpuas.com had offered some guidance and had been able to enlighten most of the visitors on the Syariah Court of Singapore’s ruling.
I have also received a comment from a member of the management committee of a mosque who told me that he is now fully aware and appreciate why a few members of the congregation of the mosque had to seek permission from the management committee of the mosque to spend a few nights at the mosque because they had no roof over their heads after the Syariah Court had ordered their matrimonial flats to be sold following the extra marital affairs of their wives which led to the inevitable divorce proceedings.
It seems that the number of people who are dissatisfied with the Syariah Court orders are increasing by the hour every day. A few of them who were dissatisfied with the Syariah court orders approached me and offered to pay me to have their stories published on lelakitakpuas.com.
Although I sympathise and feel sorry for them, it is unfortunate that I am unable to accede to their requests because they want to dictate terms on me how their stories should be reported on this website. The aim of this website is to educate and to put things in the right perspective but not to condemn any one party.
In my posting on 15th December 2009, I mentioned therein that the powers of hakams are somewhat curtailed. Some said hakams had no autonomy. I mentioned therein in my posting that hakams compelling the nusyuz wives to go back to their innocent husbands have not been heard of these days. Someone told me that hakams do not compel nusyuz wives to go back to their husbands because in Chapter II, verse 256, Allah said that
” There is compulsion in religion……….”
Of course I am aware of and believe the existence of the verse. But when you said that this verse is applicable here, I am of the opinion that he stretching the verse too far.
Compelling nusyuz wives to go back to their innocent husbands is not an act of compulsion or use of force. The aim is just to educate the wives.
Let us examine a hadith which stated
“children who have reached the age of 7 years old have to be
taught how to perform the obligatory prayers and when they
reach 10 years old and refuse to perform the salat then you have
to cane them.”
Our prophet (s.a.w.) taught us that it is necessary to educate and teach our children how to pray and to impress upon our children the need to perform our obligatory prayers. Again, please note that this is not an act of compulsion.
On defending something which is not justified
I am saddened to note that for reasons best known to themselves, there are some people who ‘feel’ that the way the provisions of Administration of Muslim Law Act (AMLA) are interpreted are not repugnant with the teachings of Islam even though they were interpreted in such a way that the philandering wives are paid large sums of mut’ah and are entitled to a large portion of the matrimonial assets that the innocent husbands have accumulated.
Apart from saddened, I am also finding it an insult to my intelligence to be told that such an interpretation is consistent with the teachings of Islam. They also argue that Islamic laws have to be contextualised. Do you accept that? Aren’t we taught to accept and adapt to Islamic laws but not manipulating them so that they suit our whims and fancies?
Our prophet (s.a.w.) said that to have differences in opinion among his followers is ‘rahmat.’ I am aware of it. I heard it and I am obeying it. But should there be a difference in opinion when our prophet (s.a.w) had given us clear guidance and had made it clear what is right (‘haq’) and what is wrong (‘batil’).
The current practice of interpreting AMLA is clearly wrong so much so that a reputable ustazah (not an ustaz) in this region could not believe what she heard from an aggrieved husband and she had to ask for a confirmation from me, a practising lawyer, whether what she heard was the truth. (See my posting on 29th April 2009)
On the choice of language
To the non-Malay speaking visitors of lelakitakpuas.com, I thank you for your support. However, I regret that I am unable to accede to your requests to translate all the postings in lelakitakpuas.com in English language. However, as far as possible, I shall try to accomodate everyone by writing in both languages (English and Malay).
My gratitude to a friend
I thank Br Firdaus for his advice mentioned therein in his Malay ‘pantun’ (poems) which reads:
Lelaki tak puas
Mahkamah tak de belas
Suami kena pulas
Di dunia isteri lepas
Di akhirat tunggu balas
Encik Sadari jangan lemas
Banyak kes ‘terlepas’
Bumi rezki luas
Menegak kebenaran jangan malas
Dan bukan dengan buku ruas
Insya Allah kebaikan Allah balas
Baru jadi lelaki PUAS.
Let us remember Allah and continue with our prayers to the Almighty at all times so that we are in His good hands every second, every minute and every hour of the day.
May Allah showers His love and mercy on all of us.
O Allah, I seek Your guidance, Your mercy, Your love, Your blessings and Your forgiveness at all times. I am helpless without Your help. Please help me.